They have this desire

to control every facet of your life.  They flip around what you've done to them, I'm guessing, except the situation is different, which is what is actually at least also important or important to just be okay.  It shouldn't be bland, though.  I shouldn't be told I'm very different in a way that people can't get to me and then think I could actually mess up my whole life without doing much and then saying I'm like everyone else when everyone else is mean to me.