Mixed Irish People

Something goes wrong, and they think they can take liberty and say something stimulating in a bad way.  Like, they refer to something else, and they think of things that shouldn't be thought of and relay the message to me and others.  I can look at it in another way, like that I don't really like it.  Hm...when things like that happen, usually, people do something else to make sure it bothers me but may realize I can look at anything in a different way and that they'd be out to do something that didn't mean anything that made sense nor that wasn't okay in the end.  I'm like a virus learning to overcome immunity.