People know they're wrong.

They're mean to me with an attitude and think no one will look at them funnily.

I would experience gratification in the action of calling someone who's quite mean to me in our relationship the "n" word, but I would never chose to do so, unless someone wanted to do it for fun, which is what some people forget is what happened, for some reason.  There are still some crazy people about, but for the bulk of it I'm innocent now.